Wedding Do's & Don'ts

• Don't put emphasis on the word "perfect" - be flexible and maintain a sense of humor.
• Don't procrastinate in your planning - hire all of your wedding professionals as soon as the date and place are set.
• Don't hire your wedding professional until you have a working budget.
• Don't hire the first professional you meet - check out a minimum of 3 for a proper comparison.
• Don't hire professionals because they're the cheapest - you get what you pay for.
• Don't assume anything! - get everything in writing.
• Don't make decisions without consulting your mate - it's his or her wedding too!
• Don't invite everyone you've ever known. - weddings are expensive.
• Don't worry about everyone else's advise -- it's your wedding!!

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Wedding Planning & Organizing

• Give yourself plenty of time to plan. "Stress" means "strain" and "mental or physical tension", usually brought on by attempting to handle a multiple of tasks with a minimum of time. A realistic budget and timetable are mandatory to keep you on track.
• Organize: all the pieces of the wedding. A binder which will include separate tabs for wedding professionals, appointments, contracts, gown/ dress swatches etc..
• Activate: Prepare and follow a timetable of events, including appointments, deposits & payments, reviewing, contract terms, fittings, etc..
• Coordinate: Every aspect of the wedding day must be coordinated; Vendors and wedding party must be coordinated.
• On the wedding day: Pamper yourself. Spend quiet time alone. Spend time with your parents. Eat something light Relax - It's your day to enjoy Do it your way - it's not a dress rehearsal

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10 Tips for your Love Life

• Life is what happens when you're not looking, right? Keep your love alive even while coping with the busiest of schedules by picking up a few good habits, making the most of the time you have together.
• Don't leave home without it! Kiss your partner before leaving home. Add a hug while you're at it! Two minutes that start your day off right. And, don't forget to kiss them when you come home!
• Keep that date! If you don't have a regular date night every week, create one. Don't lose your identity as a couple.
• Conserve energy. Shower together and save water. Plus, this is even better than looking in a mirror for keeping those unwanted pounds off.
• Give each other a break. When you come home, give each other 30 minutes to unwind quietly and leave work behind.
• Return to the table. Eat dinner at the table without TV as a distraction.
• Play soft music, and really enjoy dinner together. Don't let chores get in the way. Try to break up chores so you don't end up trying to do everything on the weekend.
• Wanna do lunch? Have lunch together once a week. Especially if you have children, this will provide time together without interruptions. On days you can't lunch together, use this time to get some of your errands done.
• Prepare the night before. Do you start your day stressed out trying to find clothes that are pressed, getting your family's gear together, etc? Lay out as much as you can the night before so you can actually enjoy breakfast with your partner and family.
• Don't be a slave to the kitchen. If you are a two-career couple, eat your heavier, more traditional meal at lunch, and eat light at dinner. Not only will this be healthier for you, but it will save you time cooking and cleaning, so you can spend more time doing things you both enjoy

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Top 10 ways to save you $$$

• Average Costs Per Wedding: The average wedding costs over $19,000! No wonder couples get antsy when they start coordinating a wedding. But does it have to be this way? Absolutely not! The most important thing is to make your wedding personal. No matter how much you are prepared to spend, the following budget-savvy strategies from will help get the most beautiful memories for your money:
• Set Priorities: Before you begin planning your wedding and reception, sit down together and discuss your top five priorities. This will help to determine where to go all out, and where you can cut corners. If it is important to you that the wedding and reception be held at the restaurant that you went to on your first date or you know you must have a specific designer gown or a certain DJ that you really like, then you can fit that into your budget and decide to save money in other areas.
• Guest List: Keeping the guest list as concise as possible can help to drastically reduce reception costs. Most caterers, restaurants and banquet halls charge per person, so the difference between 100 guests and 150 will be significant. Don't invite more guests than you can spend one minute of time with. If you invite 300 guests spending one minute with each would take over five hours. And that's not including time to eat, dance and have a good time!
• Food: can be the biggest expense at a wedding. Strategies to save on food and catering include choosing to have a buffet instead of a sit-down meal, or hosting a high tea, dessert reception, brunch or luncheon instead of a multi-course dinner. Or consider drop-off catering, where the caterer delivers already prepared food and sets it up. Catering all, or part of the reception, on your own is another possibility. Location There are many options for low-cost or no-cost locations including local and national parks, forest preserves, your own backyard or that of a friend or relative. Also consider a location that offers an all-inclusive package on the wedding, reception, and sometimes the honeymoon too. Choosing to have the wedding during an off-season or on any day but Saturday will also help to cut costs.
• Wedding Attire: A few creative money-saving alternatives to shopping at a traditional bridal salon include purchasing a gown at an outlet, a department store in the special occasions off-the-rack area, buying a vintage or once-worn gown and purchasing a traditional gown through the Discount Bridal Service (DBS). Also consider bidding for a gown online at an auction site, renting a gown, redoing a mother or mother-in-law's dress or wearing a designer suit.

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Choosing Your Tulsa DJ & Tulsa Wedding Music

He's a little bit country, she's a little bit rock 'n roll. Mom's big on Sinatra, but she married the original doo-wop daddy. The aunts and uncles prefer polkas, chicken dances and similarly embarrassing spectacles.And then there are the friends from college that want to rock and roll...
How do you select Tulsa reception music that fits everybody? It's an intimidating question, since the entertainment plays no small role in the success of a wedding reception. Years from now, your wedding reception guests will remember few details of your reception, but they'll certainly recall whether they danced, laughed and enjoyed themselves. The entertainment is the make-or-break factor in producing a memorable special occasion. Each assembly of guests takes on a distinct personality. Forecasting a group's hot buttons is more art than science, but we can offer some time-tested guidelines.

• The Art of The Slow Transition Is it possible to satisfy the desperate audience we described at the beginning of this article?Sure. In fact, we do it at least a few times each weekend, using a simple and effective technique called the "slow transition."
• After dinner music (good choices: soft rock, jazz or classical), begin the dancing portion of the reception with a mix of more romantic songs, leaning more toward the big band and 50's crooners. As the evening progresses and people get more enthusiastic, build toward a more up tempo, contemporary mix. That's not to say that there's no variety of fast/slow, old/new during the transition, but to say that the mood of the music matches that of the crowd; subtly evolving from mellow to more exciting.
• Artfully staged, nobody really notices the evolution in progress. Each guest, however, will recall that they "played my type of music." The Special Songs in the Mix There are some song titles that you'll specify by name to your entertainment provider. These "special songs" include your bride & groom first dance, father/bride dance, mother/groom dance, bridal party dance, cake cutting, departure dance, and others, depending upon which traditional agenda items you include in your reception.
• Often, what makes a song special is the memory associated with it. A great first-dance song might be the one playing on the car radio during the couple's first date. The father/bride dance could be performed to the song dad sang when he tucked in a five-year-old future bride. Even if the meaning is lost on the rest of the group, a special moment forms on the dance floor. And that is apparent to the guests.
• For true sentimentality, there are several songs intended specifically for such events as father/bride and mother/groom dance songs. Currently, Bob Carlisle's Butterfly Kisses holds the popular lead among father/bride selections, but specialty artists Mikki and Renee Nalbandian have both composed wonderfully sentimental ballads for such occasions.
• One caution that can be offered regarding special songs is to consider the true lyrical content of the song before committing to it. For years, Olivia Newton John's I Honestly Love You was a favorite choice, despite the fact that its subject matter involves the conclusion of an extramarital affair. Whitney Houston's I Will Always Love You is also a break-up song, as is Garth Brooks' The Dance. They're all heart-touching ballads, but just don't offer themselves to the true spirit of a first dance as husband and wife.
• How Much Music Do I Need to Select? Aside from your special songs, it's important for you to work with your entertainment provider to set a tone for the event. There are likely to be songs that you definitely do or don't want to have included in your reception.
• A reputable DJ or band leader will work with you to produce a music program that reflects your preferences, rather than working off of a standard play list that works most of the time.
• Obviously, planning is essential. You should work closely with an entertainment provider whose insights you trust. Together, you can produce an entertainment program that balances your taste and the desires of your audience.
  Some flexibility is essential in the planning process. Let's take an extreme (but true) example to illustrate the point.
• How much music do I need to select? Somewhere between 50 and 60 songs will fit into a four-hour wedding reception. But that pragmatic answer fails to consider the most important issue you face as a special event planner: How much of the reception belongs to you, and how much belongs to your guests? Frequently... very frequently, in fact... we're told not to play The Electric Slide, The Macarena, or the Chicken Dance. That exclusion is quite understandable, since those songs are so overplayed that they audibly illustrate the word "trite." It's also understandable that many guests will want to dance to those songs. They expect them. And you can prohibit them. It's important for you to decide how much of the reception you're willing to trust in the hands of your guests.

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Choosing Your Tulsa Photographer

• Photographic Style - Do you like the photographer's photographic style. When you see portfolio of previous work he/she has done, can you picture yourself in that specific photographic style. Would you like yourself photographed in the same way? Is there enough variety in the photographer's style to give you the pictures you want.
• Experience - Make sure the photographer has had experience professionally photographing other weddings. Does he/she do this for a living or as a hobby?
• Personality - Make sure that the chemistry is there between you and the photographer. You want to make sure that the photographer's personality is there to compliment your special day. Maybe even give you encouragement to strike a pose or feel more comfortable or relaxed.
• Appearance - Is this person well groomed? Ask the photographer how he/she intends to dress. You probably don't want the photographer showing up in jean cut-offs, a t-shirt or looking like a slob.
• Who will photograph your wedding? Is it the individual who you are dealing with regarding taking the pictures, or will you be getting someone else? Make sure you are getting the individual who's portfolio and/or sample you've seen.
• Delivery of products - How long does it take to get your proofs back, your bridal portrait, your finished album etc.? Just ask. Some photographers will take months to deliver your proofs. Know the turn around time for everything.
• Price Range - Make sure you are given all the costs including re-ordering. Are you happy with what is included in the package and the work quality of this photographer? It's worth to pay a little extra to get exactly what you want.
• Offering - Whether you pick and choose or accept a package designed by them, make sure you understand what you get. Is there any room for changes and will it cost extra to do so? Sometimes the packages are fixed, sometimes they can be customized, in any case, ask. How much time will he/she spend? What if you need more time? Make sure that you know what's coming.
• What about payments and deposits? What does your contract say about cancellations and the photographer not being there? If you are not sure, ask legal counsel to look it over. If the photographer protests, ask him/her why? This is one area NOT to take lightly. You could be disappointed for a long time.
• Contract - Do you understand the contract? Is it fair? Is everything spelled out? When it comes down to going to court, only what is written in the contract really matters. Verbal agreements are binding, but nearly impossible to prove 99 times out of 100. Make sure that you are totally comfortable with what you are signing. Don't be afraid to get up and leave if you don't like the contract and he/she is unwilling to change it.
• References - A personal reference is always the best and people love to talk. Get a list of references from the photographer and check them out personally. A photographer who doesn't have references or is afraid to give them to you may not be the person that you want to hire. Check with the BBB and The Chamber of Commerce. Find out if he or she is a member of any photographic organizations.
• Shopping for a wedding photographer is not like selecting a gown or a bridal bouquet. You can see something tangible before you make your decision, when you're shopping for specific items like that. But in the selection of your photographer, you're often at the mercy of a super-salesperson and/or your own intuition. It seems as if PRICE is usually the main determining factor, even though there's NEVER going to be a second chance. Nor has there ever been anything written that gives you, the bride, a true guideline as to how to select the one person who could supply you with a heart full of memories to last a lifetime.
• I have, therefore, compiled a list of in-depth questions that you may want to explore to help select the photographer who's right for you. Think about them and get answers before placing your trust and faith in someone who might later disappoint you with results that are less than what you had hoped to receive. No one knows better than I what's going on in the wedding photography industry today. I've been a wedding photographer, myself, for the last 7 years or so, and been photographing for over 10 years. I really know the business from the INSIDE OUT! And I want to share it with you here - in the hopes that you will once and for all learn how to be an educated shopper for wedding photography.
• Start Here First of all, undoubtedly the best way a bride has to prejudge the competency of a wedding photographer is to have a recommendation from someone whose opinion she trusts. If she has more than one recommendation, that's even better - especially if the same photographer's name comes from different sources.
• Then, a phone call is appropriate. The telephone conversation should begin with the availability of the studio to cover the wedding on your specific date. You should also learn the name of the photographer who would be doing the actual pictures at your wedding, and at let a rough estimate of the costs involved. You should find out on the telephone how the photographer feels about posed and un posed pictures and decide whether or not you agree or are interested in the studio's philosophy of how the wedding photography should be conducted. That is - photojournalism, candids, portraits, groups, etc. Just one concept? A combination of several? An appointment should be made to meet with the photographer who will be assigned to your wedding, see his work and discuss the details. Without doubt, this meeting should include both the bride and groom as well as the bride's parents...or however many of these people can be assembled for the consultation. Without all these people in attendance it would be virtually impossible to come to any conclusions that would effectively work for all the principle parties involved.
• At that meeting the first assessment you should make is whether or not you feel comfortable in the presence of the photographer. If you're going to spend a good part of the most important day of your life with this person, it should be someone with whom you know you'll enjoy sharing that time. Then, I feel that you should see some of the photographer's work. If you see a picture, or a series of pictures, that you really like, you should ask:
• Who are these people? Did you, personally, take these photographs? May I call these people for a personal reference?
• After all, it's one thing to see some beautiful pictures, but it's equally important to find out if the bride and groom ENJOYED working with this photographer. It's also a way of knowing that the photographs you're being shown were actually made by the person you're speaking to. You want to be sure that the work you're admiring was made by the photographer who'll be at your wedding.
• Another result of this meeting could be to allow you and your photographer to begin a one-on-one relationship. In that way, neither of you would be strangers to each other on the day of the wedding and you'll be more relaxed in front of the camera. Now The Fun Begins For the most part, when prospective clients come to my studio, their questions pertain to prices, sizes and numbers in general. I've often felt that the reason for this is that they've never thought to consider some of the more important questions such as:
• How do you feel about the bride and groom not wanting to see each other before the ceremony? ---What are the alternatives? ---How will the various plans affect us on the day of the wedding?
• Do you have any goals for approaching each wedding? ---Any long-term goals for yourself as a person? ---As a photographer?
• How long do you expect to be with us on the day of the wedding? ---Beginning at what time? ---Until when? ---Is there an extra charge if the wedding runs a little overtime?
• Whom would you include in the photographs? ---Where and when would they be taken?
• What can I do to help you perform your duties to the best of your ability? See a WHOLE Wedding
• If you're still interested in the photographer's services at this point, I'd ask to see a complete coverage of a single wedding. That's a lot more important than seeing a selection of beautiful highlights from many different weddings.
• When looking through the album, evaluate the work by placing yourself in the position that this could have been YOUR wedding coverage. Ask yourself if the photographer has actually considered the individual characteristics and personality of each of the important persons in the photographs. Has the photographer caught the individual's actual feelings of the moment, or are these just pictures of people standing and looking self-consciously into the lens. Do they look natural? Or even better than real? And, in fact, is that what you and they really want? Now, THIS Could Be a REAL Test! You might ask the photographer to analyze your face to see if he/she would know how to achieve the most flattering images of you:
• Considering my facial features, physical attributes in general, what angles of my face would you consider to be better than others? ---Is there anything you can do to make me or members of my family look the way they WANT to look? It seems as if everyone complains that they hate the way they look in posed pictures!
• Have you noticed any expressions or mannerisms of mine that you might want to try to capture or avoid?
• How did you get qualified to take professional wedding pictures? --- What kind of educational background and/or experience have you had in developing your techniques? --- When and with whom was your technique last updated? Get Specific!
• Now, let's get down to the nitty-gritty. Too often important details that you had never before considered come back to haunt you later:
• How will you be showing me the pictures for selection?
• How will you be showing me the pictures for selection?
• Will you be helping me in the selection of the final pictures?
• How can people who live out of town be accommodated with ordering, paying and delivery?
• What are the costs of the various styles of coverage? --- Are there different degrees of coverage? --- What's included in each?
• How much for the extras? --- Duplicates? --- Ask to see the specific style of album you will be receiving. --- Are alternate choices available? At an extra cost?
• What kind of time frame are you looking at for preparing the pictures for my selection? --- Are you providing me with proofs, slides, video tape of the pictures, or what? --- How much time do I have to make up my mind as to which pictures I want and how many? --- Are the proofs for sale?
• Look to The Future How much money would you expect me to eventually spend before you think I'd be completely happy with my wedding coverage?
• How much money would you WANT me to spend in order for me to make it worthwhile for you to give me your full attention on my wedding day?
• How long have you been in the business? --- How long do you plan on staying in the business? --- In other words, what kind of guarantee comes with my hiring you and/or your studio?
• Wrap It Up Intelligently Finally, let's consider a few topics of conversation that could/should help you make your decision.
• Do you have any particular philosophy about your approach to photographing weddings?
• What would you plan to do at my wedding that would make my wedding photographs unique and personal to me? --- Can I tell you who I want in my pictures? --- How will you find them?
• How can I be certain that YOU will be taking my pictures?
• With whom will I be dealing after the wedding?
• What's your payment policy? --- Do you give any guarantees on your services and photographs? How Much Should Pictures Cost? It's difficult to pay too much for something you really like. Yet, price is usually the one obstacle that prevents many wedding clients from selecting the photographer who undoubtedly could give them the best value for the money. Quite often the difference between the price of the photographer you really like and one who you feel is "within the budget" is miscalculated. Understandably, of course! When wedding plans come down to dollars and cents, it's hard to keep spending "a little more here...and a little more there. Somewhere along the line," you feel, "you have to give a little! There's only so-much money available!" Yet, within the framework of the entire wedding day, it makes good sense to evaluate the money spent on photographs in relation to what's being spent on flowers, food and music. Although everyone knows that the pictures are the only thing you have after the moment has passed, some people still feel that they have to put the money "where it shows".

Choosing Your Tulsa Videographer

Why have a Tulsa Wedding Video? A video of your wedding day in Oklahoma captures all the excitement, nervousness, happiness of your special day. After so many months of planning, the 24 hours of your wedding day pass quickly - so many things happening that you do not see, the magical moment when you exchange your vows, your numerous guests enjoying themselves, those well-rehearsed speeches!, and dancing the night away. Having a video of your day ensures you can relive that day again and again.

• As a couple you will be posing for photographs while your guests are mingleing and relaxing, not to mention the playfulness of young bridesmaids and groomsmen since their outfits don't need to be kept tidy! Much of the footage you will be seeing for the first time when you watch it at home after your honeymoon.
• A wedding video also captures all your family and friends at one of the few social occasions when they are reunited and some have raveled great distances to even be there. Very likely, you will never have a similar opportunity to have those people together at the same time again. A video lets you remember them - who they were, where they've come from, what they were like. In years to come, they will either not be with us anymore and not to mention that everyone ages, including yourselves.
• Hire a Skilled Professional Videographer in tulsato videotape your wedding. This takes a great deal of skill and experience. Weddings are spontaneous, despite all the planning, and that is what makes them so enjoyable for years to come. The tulsavideographer has to anticipate unexpected events as well as the planned ones, to Attending from the guests arriving (or even the bride at home), all through the ceremony, reception and evening reception, the tulsavideographer gives you their undivided attention for the whole day.
• Editing the footage ensures you have a wedding video to remember - and are often 2-3 hours in length. The majority of this will be the service and speeches - important in their entirety for the immediate family. Videos of the 'highlights' can also be produced separately, a shortened version for many of your friends who may just want an overview of the day!

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Choosing YourTulsa Wedding Cake

The cake is one of the most prevalent symbols of your wedding. It will be featured prominently in your wedding pictures and it will be a focal point for your guests when they arrive at the reception hall. Your cake can pull together your colors and wedding theme in one beautiful, delicious package.

There are so many choices available from today's pastry chefs. You can choose standard chocolate and vanilla, fruit or pound cakes or you can delight the palate with a cheesecake or cakes with a mousse filling.

If you have a favorite cake, most experienced pastry chef can decorate it in just the way you want. You don't even have to stop at one flavor, each tier can be made of different flavors so you can please everyone.

Your cake can be frosted with basic butter cream frosting or rolled fondant or marzipan. You can add lace designs, ruffles and interesting shapes and pipe on any color to match your theme. Ribbons, flowers, bows and swirls can be created from pulled or blown sugar, icing, pastiage or a combination of tasty ingredients and the real thing. Marzipan and sugar flowers can be accented with real ivy leaves and your imagination is the only limit to the size and appearance of your special cake.

Where to start?  First, calculate the following:

• How many guests will be attending?
• What's your budget for your wedding cake?
• How many tiers or what type of cake design?
• What colors and decorations should be included?
• Will you be using as a wedding cake top?
• Will the cake be the main dessert or will it be part of a sweet table?
  
  Here are more wedding idease and tips to consider when ordering your wedding cake:

• your cake should be ordered 6-8 weeks in advance
• take along your sketches, ideas, pictures pulled from magazines take samples of your colors to leave with the pastry chef or cake decorator in tulsa.
• Remember that the more elaborate the wedding cake, the higher the cost. Also, the number of guests will affect the price.
• You'll also have to pay for delivery and set-up and the cost of the cake top, flowers and embellishments which will adorn the wedding cake.

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Choosing Your Tulsa Reception Location

So you and your fiance have finally settled on a wedding date. What to do next? The number one thing on your "To Do" list now is to determine the location of the wedding ceremony itself, since the rest of your wedding day will revolve around that critical locale. There are many things to keep in mind when selecting the perfect location for your wedding ceremony.

• First decide whether you want to have a religious ceremony or a civil one. Religious ceremonies are, of course, held in houses of worship. Requirements for religious ceremonies vary greatly from one denomination to another. Pre-marriage counseling is required by some religions, sometimes as much as six months in advance. Others forbid interfaith marriages altogether. If you are planning to have a church wedding, you should contact your house of worship for specific guidelines and requirements. Also, you should make sure that your wedding date and time don't conflict with the normal worship schedules of the church or temple.
• A civil ceremony, on the other hand, can be held just about anywhere-the only limitation is your imagination! Local parks, botanical gardens, hotels, lakeside cottages and museums are wonderful sites for the ceremony and can also double as reception sites as well. These are popular choices because they are available for a relatively small fee, if any. Other popular places include historical mansions, bed and breakfast inns, old theaters, vineyards and wine cellars. Check our your local tourist bureau, Chamber of Commerce, or historical society for free guides to local facilities that are available for wedding ceremonies.

Finally, when making your final decision about where to have your wedding location, there are a few things that you absolutely must consider to avoid planning headaches down the road:

• Is there a deposit required? If so, how much? Is it refundable?
• Be sure to find out the restrictions, set-up times and clean-up requirements. How many guests can the place accommodate? Are you required to clean up, or will the facility staff? If so, is there an extra charge for their services?
• Ask if there are any rules regarding candles, flowers, birdseed, etc. You'd hate to have to revamp your wedding plans at the last minute when you find out that you can't burn candles in the facility or that the place assumes that you are going to donate the ceremony flowers that you'd planned on drying as keepsakes to them after the wedding is over.
• Determine what equipment is available for your use. Don't assume that the tables, chairs and centerpieces at the potential ceremony site will be available for your use. These items might not be for use at all, or it might be more cost effective to just rent them from an outside source.
• During what time of year is your wedding taking place? A lavish garden wedding during a spring afternoon might look good on paper, but if you live in tulsaor some other place where you can set your watch by the daily afternoon thunderstorms, you might want to rethink the outdoor plans (or at least have a contingency plan in place just in case the rain starts falling before you say, "I do.")
• These tips can help you decide the best place for you and your fiancé to exchange wedding vows and will set the tone for the rest of your hectic wedding planning. So choose your ceremony site now and the rest of the wedding details will seem to just fall into place.

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Choosing Invitations - Planning Your Wedding Invitations

Tips when ordering your wedding invitations:

• For maximum impact, look for high quality invitations at discount prices online. You can order from http://www.a-weddinginvitation.com offering wedding invitations at discount prices from Encore Invitations, Birchcraft Invitations and more. Stylart Wedding Invitations offers beautiful stationary with photos and are inexpensive to order online. One trend, stationery experts from A-WeddingInvitation.com says, is "a clean, crisp look with some empty space--NOT every inch filled with type. Use different font styles to offset the wording which is also popular these days. Use a different size font to offset the names of the bride and groom. Stay away from too-large type, though, you want the invitation to be readable, not overpowering.
Here are more helpful tips:
• Names on Invitation...With multiple families and divorced families these days, wording on invitations can be sometimes tricky.
• Try to keep the attention on the bride and groom. The best way to do this is to avoid listing the other names on top; instead use short, inclusive phrases such as "Amy Jones and Bill Smith, together with their families..." or "The parents of Amy Jones and Bill Smith request the pleasure of your company..." This way, the wording is friendly and uncomplicated. Also, if you're not using "Mr. and Mrs.," ladies always go first, as in "Ann and William Taylor request the honor of your presence..."
• And remember, if your ceremony will be held in a church, synagogue or other house of worship, "the honor of your presence" is the appropriate phrasing. For any other venues, use "the pleasure of your company."

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